A lot of people reading this blog don’t understand what I’m talking about when I say that male virgins need to fight back. That’s because they don’t what has happened to us. It’s not about being made fun of for being a virgin. I haven’t had that happen in a very long time. My friends are all men who are in the same boat as I am. They are either virgin men, “near-virgin” men (they may have paid a hooker or just got very lucky once or twice), or in one case a guy who was successful with women when he was making only $10K a year but now no women are interested in him now that he makes good money (6 figures).
Over time I will tell you about everything that has happened to me. While it would help if I could tell you everything that has happened to me in one shot, I only have so much time so it will take a while. While there has been the being made fun of, the things I am usually talking about are things that could get me thrown in jail or lose my job. One of these things that has happened to me is false sexual harassment claims.
Notice I said claims, plural, because this has happened to me more than once. I work in the STEM sector of the ecnonomy which is mainly men, but there are a few women here and there. However, the problem is invariably the female support staff (non-STEM) for the companies I worked for. I remember the first time this happened to me. I got pulled into the office of the director of human resources, a woman, who after explaining the complaint starting accusing me of everything possible related to this complain. Clear this HR woman was in the pocket of the woman who made up the sexual harassment story. Facts and logic such as how I never even had contact with this woman who made up the story didn’t make the HR woman budge. Fortunately, I had the smarts to start talking to the nearest MALE vice president to get them involved. While that worked to a point, the male VP got stuck in that while he knew everything I said was the truth firing the woman who accussed me was a problem because they were afraid of a sexism lawsuit. The woman who accussed me did end up fired only because that VP I talked to did some investigating and lucked out by finding that she embezelled $20,000 from the company. That gave my employer a way out.
There was another case at a different company where a different woman accussed me of sexual harassment. This one was different in that during the time when I supposedly sexually harassed this woman I was on a business trip in a city hundreds of miles away. Of course, that didn’t stop the HR woman I had to deal with from going after me.
I won’t bore you with every story of a false sexual harassment claim against me. So far I have been lucky that I haven’t lost my job. I know other guys who haven’t been so lucky. This isn’t something that has just happened to me. I have seen it happen to many of my male STEM coworkers and collegaues. This is prevalent because of several problems. Women have so much power in our society that they can get away with doing these things with impunity. Even though the male executives at my employers know I’m innocent they can’t just fire the female troublemakers because they are afraid of BS sexism lawsuits. (If you don’t believe me, take a look at the BS sexism lawsuit against WalMart.) HR is almost completely female in STEM companies and that may be true in general so HR is always in the back pocket of any woman who wants to make up a BS story against a man because women always defend each other no matter how crazy a woman is.
Why has this happened to me and other guys? I suspect its because the women can’t stand most guys working in STEM. At one of my jobs, a male coworker of mine overhead a conversation between several women who also worked there. These women were all talking about how they wish they could get rid of the “nerdy and geeky engineers” and replace them with good looking guys. Of course, if you don’t like how geeky and nerdy your male coworkers are, FIND A NEW JOB WOMEN, don’t make up sexual harassment stories against them. I also noticed that the sexual harassment stories are more likely to be against single and divorced men. These are men with less female contact. I figure that’s because the less contact a man has with women, the more likely women will think their made up sexual harassment story will stink.
At this point in my life I am forced to conclude there has never been an actual example of sexual harassment against a woman. It’s just an excuse to attack men. I now minimize the contact I have with women at work. That way when the next sexual harassment BS story comes up I can say that I never had any contact with this woman or that I haven’t spoken to this woman in three weeks.