34 comments on “You Are Not Alone

  1. Hi W&N,

    Excellent blog. Keep up the good work. You are absolutely right, this is why women should not have any rights. It does not matter anymore that you go to school, get a good job, and make money. The very thing society brainwashes males to do to, in order to keep society functioning. The bitches go for the bad boys, exactly what society tells men not to become. Women are not logical creatures, and society by definition is based on logic. Therefore, the more power you give them, the faster society will fail. I am in your exact position, white, nerdy, have lots of money, and women don’t give me the time of day, unless, of course they are prick teasing to boost the height of their pedestal. I have tried everything to change my fate, including PUA, psycologists, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, and nothing has worked, so therefore I have absolutely no more investment in this society. Since I know that nothing I do is going to make a difference, I get revenge in the small ways… I slam doors in women’s faces, If I have to interview one for a job I insult them and suggest they not get hired, I don’t move out of the way when they are walking down the street, and if they don’t get out my way I bump right into them and knock them over, I cut them off and talk over them at stores, customer service, on the job, etc., I only vote for people who advocate shrinkage of the government, and elimination of social programs, I am constantly improving my work skills so I can make more money and gain more prestige, and god forbid a bitch asks me for a favor that is not sexual. I suggest that all other men in our position do the same thing to show them our appreciation.

    • No offense man, but it seems that you have no imagination. You need to get it through your head that not every woman living on earth is a bitch. Women are just like men, a certain amount are evil and a certain amount aren’t. Let’s say it’s 50/50 just for arguments sake. So are you going to hurt all of the women just because half of them pissed you off? I really hope some gullible guys didn’t read what you said and think this was a good idea.

      This is just as ridiculous as a fat ugly woman saying all guys are assholes simply because they aren’t attracted to her and then goes on a revenge rampage against all men. Sound ridiculous? Well this is exactly what you are doing. For me getting even with women that treated me like shit is acting like a confident sociable guy around other people when those women happen to be around. The look on their faces says it all. The best revenge is definitely living well. Open your mind and look at the big picture!

  2. I know quite a few guys in your situation. They’re aren’t short, fat, ill-dressed, unkempt, or anything at all obvious that would likely signal “male virgin”. Just normal guys with bad luck or poor social skills.

    I think a lot of it also has to do with having an introverted personality. The typical “alpha male” in America is loud, cocky, sociable, whereas introverts tend to avoid that sort of behavior. It’s plainly obvious that most (all) females aren’t attracted to those who exert no social dominance.

    I am not a virgin, I’ve had a few short-lived relationships and flings. I attribute it solely to looks and height, since I’m not very sociable. But I can relate to you very well.

  3. Good post and great comments by both james and Dali above.

    The problem is, even in a normal non-misandrist society 100% of the women are only attracted to about 50% of the men. Though they eventually settle for less for the security of having a husband. In our society, raised on a diet of brain-rotting pop culture and feminism, 100% of the women believe they are entitled to the top 10% of the men. She’ll just marry Big Government and fuck bad boys on the side until she gets her “prince.” And woe betide any man who does not fit whatever delusional vision she has in her head of what she deserves. Misandry and female pedestalization lets the female lizard brain chase Mr. Big fantasies indefinitely. But note, for the vast majority of women, these are only fantasies, or for the “lucky” ones, an occasional pump-and-dump.

    Also – white and nerdy, I don’t think that being a virgin is something shameful. And feel free to tell me “go fuck yourself” at the following suggestions. But i’d feel remiss if i didn’t suggest.

    I’m wondering if you’ve ever considered vacationing in a European country where they have legal prostitution. There are reputable, non-sleazy situations in many major cities that are not expensive. It is socially acceptable over there, there’s no shame in it. And in a country like Germany or Spain where it is highly regulated you’re quite safe from STD’s. When I was over there I was with one girl who said she has sessions with virgins all the time. Plus, there are lots of inspiring & enriching cultural things to do in those countries beyond women.
    Secondly, I’m wondering if you’ve ever tried to meet older women. I don’t mean OLD women…I’m about your age, and I see ladies in their 40’s all the time that still look really good. In my experience they are not as delusional as younger women when it comes to men, and can also be very sexually adventurous. And often they’re also good for some conversation. There’s something about the Wile E Coyote moment that inspires women to start developing themselves a little bit intellectually.

    I know neither situation is ideal. But they may be a bridge across a river for you.

    • Re Herbal Essence:

      Or, he can just move to vegas. I moved here 3 years ago and you can have a perfect 10 escort who allows kissing for about $300 an hour. The escorts here are the best I have ever seen, some of them are really into it. It is just like getting fucked by a GF. I hire one every other week or so. My experience here has been much better than the escorts in europe and since I live here I can get one anytime I want.

      About your comment of 40+ women, in my experience, they are no different from the rest of them if they are even somewhat good looking. They are still on a pedestal and looking for a “perfect” guy.

      • Fair enough. But I mentioned Europe because it is legal over there. Some guys hold off from patronizing an escort due to it being illegal.

  4. “She’ll just marry Big Government and fuck bad boys on the side until she gets her “prince.””

    Have any of you actually ever applied for any government assitance? It’s not easy to get. You have to prove that you are incapable of working by having a medical disability. It’s not like they give money to you just for being female. Wherever did you get that idea?

    • You’re dumb. Let me guess. Woman?

      1. Women benefit from Affirmative Action and Title IX, two government programs that prevent men from getting jobs and higher education. White Women have benefitted from Affirmative Action more than any minority, which is rather absurd considering White Women are the majority in the US and hold the majority of wealth.

      2. Women are largely employed in the Public Sector (Government, Education, some Health Care) which can just print up more monopoly money at the Fed rather than lay people off. Men have the unfortunate situation of being in the Private Sector, which has to, you know, not go out of business.

      3. Women get preferential treatment in Divorce and Family Courts, allowing her to harvest her husband’s resources when she no longer feels the vagina tingle for him.

  5. White and Nerdy, there is definitely something flawed in women’s behaviour, however you cannot completely blame them for the way they act. It’s kind of an oxymoron, but try to stay with me on this one. Their behaviour is largely based on the reptilian brain, which is their most basic instinct. Everyone who is reading this please keep an open mind and try to understand what I’m trying to tell you here.

    Think of a drug addict, he or she may not want to be a drug addict, but in the end their reptilian brain will always push them towards the drug regardless if it is good for their long term health or not. This behaviour is similar with women going for bad boys despite being beaten and treated like shit. What’s worse, unlike a drug addict, women cannot reprogram their reptilian brain.

    The intelligent women learn to go for the beta males and ignore their basic instincts, which they rationally know will support them better in the long run than the alpha male that may not care about them. The stupid women will continue to go for the alpha males despite being mistreated because they cannot ignore their basic instincts. Another interesting fact is that. The ironic and sad case of this is that psychopaths, sociopaths and narcissists’ fake personalities do a very good job of attracting the primitive part of women’s minds.

    Interesting that you bring up personality types up White and Nerdy and I’ll elaborate on this. Now let’s look at the kind of men that women find most attractive. Usually it’s a male that is loud, cocky and proud. What personality type fits this description the best? The ESTP personality type under MBTI, which is about 15% of the population. These males are usually the alpha males. If you don’t know MBTI, I suggest you go read about it and inform yourself. Unfortunately some personality types may get the short end of the stick when it comes to women.

    What are these types? I’d say INFJ, INTP, INTJ, INFP. What do these types have in common, they’re intuitive and introverted, which will increase their chances of being socially awkward. The only ones of these types that can compensate for this are ones that got good looks to make up for it. Of course males with different personality types then the ones mentioned can have trouble with women also if they are socially awkward.

    So let’s try to look at it in a scientific manner. With primates we observe that the phenomena of female primates mating with the top the of male primates is very reminiscent of female human behavior. Why did nature make this happen? Because nature never intended for all males to mate with women in the first place! Only a small percentage of men are required for such a task, the rest of the men must of been there for other reasons during pre-civilization times. This strategy must of worked well 10,000 years ago or we wouldn’t be here today. Maybe there were primarily alpha males during pre-civilization times and beta males began to become numerous once civilization formed and protected their existence, one could only hypothesize our history at this point.

    However, you guys need to realize that nature is extremely outdated, it has made women attracted to men that would help them survive in an environment that is 10,000 years old. In today’s modern world, an entirely different kind of male would best support a woman and it would not be an alpha male. What kind of male would this be? My guess it would be the ultimate beta male. A male that is intelligent, hardworking and mature, which ironically is a lot of men being handed the short end of the stick today. Eventually, nature will evolve women to be attracted to this type of man, but unfortunately it may take centuries or even millenniums for nature to catch up.

    So for all you angry men out there, instead of putting all your anger out at women. Realize that you are merely looking at the symptom. For the disease is nature’s incredibly slow evolutionary pace. It’s sad that feminism pretty much unleashed this disease because prior to feminism, this disease was controlled by society’s forces, with those forces removed, the disease has now run rampant. Feminism in a sense is the carrier of this disease and it has allowed it to spread like wildfire. My main point is that the reason this is happening is very complex and traces back to our evolutionary history and history of our civilization. To simply blame women for this problem is simply choosing to be ignorant and refusing to look at the issue in a deeper way.

    Thank you.

    • Again, more reasons why women should not have any rights. If this keeps up, society will regress back to the way it was 10000 years ago. Just a thought.

      • No, my arguments were not reasoning for women to have no rights, it was to look at things in a deeper perspective and understand women’s point of view. When you look at evolutionary psychology you realize that for hundreds thousands of years, which was before 10,000 years ago, we lived primarily a hunter-gatherer existence, where men hunted and women gathered. These roles become pronounced and I can imagine almost all men were alpha male hunters. In this kind of environment, only the strongest most toughest men would survive and nature evolved women’s brains to be attracted to this type of man after thousands of years.

        Civilization is a mere snapshot into human history being the past 10,000 years, and even though the hunter alpha male has become obsolete. Women’s attraction circuits have not caught up. This is just one of nature’s flaws as you can see hypergamy as a consequence of delayed evolution. Eventually nature will evolve women’s brains to be addicted to the most responsible beta males.

        You can also see men’s attraction circuits that are primarily focused on beauty are also obsolete as a result of modern medicine. Women do not have to be extremely beautiful to have healthy children like 10,000 years ago. Women of average looks should be sufficient and other factors such as healthy eating habits, however men’s attraction circuits haven’t adapted to this.

        In the end, this is a result of nature’s evolutionary pace not being able to catch up to the rapid technological and societal change of civilization. The solution is not to remove women’s rights, but instead to reinstate the system of patriarchy that existed before the 1960. This system did a sufficient job of controlling women’s negative tendencies, getting rid of all of women’s rights is just statist.

    • Random- Your analysis is great and I agree with most. I touched on the lizard brain as well, a few points above. I agree with you that Feminism has simply unleashed the female lizard brain upon society. But that doesn’t mean we can’t blame women for enabling it. As comparison, if hordes of men started getting their “caveman brain” going and started raping and pillaging communities, would you say “don’t blame the men?”

      1. The older women are not controlling the younger women as they did in past societies. In fact, the older women are actually training the younger women to slut it up, probably so they can get invited to the parties.
      2. The female herd mentality is instructing women to favor “Feminism” over the well-being of their sons, husbands, and brothers. Evil.
      3. Even when presented with clear and incontrovertible evidence of another woman’s depravity, the average woman will refuse to assign a word of blame and will normally find some cockeyed reason to blame a man.
      4. Women, in their ongoing love affair with Big Government, are destroying what’s left of our constitutional government and giving birth to Big Brother.

      • Herbal Essence wrote:

        “Random- Your analysis is great and I agree with most. I touched on the lizard brain as well, a few points above. I agree with you that Feminism has simply unleashed the female lizard brain upon society. But that doesn’t mean we can’t blame women for enabling it. As comparison, if hordes of men started getting their “caveman brain” going and started raping and pillaging communities, would you say “don’t blame the men?”

        Thank you Herbal Essence. Well, like I stated above it is a bit of an oxymoron. It is a women’s fault, but then it isn’t in the same way that it’s a drug addict’s fault that he or she got addicted in the first place and then it isn’t his or her fault that they are addicted. So yes women are responsible for their behavior as responsible adults, but they shouldn’t be completely demonized for it as well as they are only human.

        Herbal Essence wrote:

        “1. The older women are not controlling the younger women as they did in past societies. In fact, the older women are actually training the younger women to slut it up, probably so they can get invited to the parties.
        2. The female herd mentality is instructing women to favor “Feminism” over the well-being of their sons, husbands, and brothers. Evil.
        3. Even when presented with clear and incontrovertible evidence of another woman’s depravity, the average woman will refuse to assign a word of blame and will normally find some cockeyed reason to blame a man.
        4. Women, in their ongoing love affair with Big Government, are destroying what’s left of our constitutional government and giving birth to Big Brother.”

        The herd mentality is pervasive throughout both genders in the human race, however I won’t deny that it is the strongest among the female population. It’s sad that the herd mentality can make normally good women turn bad. If a few evil women convince enough women to do something evil, then the majority of the women will do it even if it is horrendous merely because it is socially acceptable.

        Women just like men will protect their own ego and even ignore strong evidence if it allows them to live in a blissful lie. If they have to attack men to protect their fragile egos then they will do it as their intention is not to hurt victimized men, but merely protect themselves no matter the cost.

        • You’re making some more wonderful points above. But on this issue – “It is a women’s fault, but then it isn’t in the same way that it’s a drug addict’s fault that he or she got addicted in the first place and then it isn’t his or her fault that they are addicted” I’m afraid we’re going to have to agree to disagree.

          If someone were to look in the brain (or the “shadow” a la Carl Jung) of a man, one would find a seething mass of desires. Many of them being highly socially unacceptable. Yet, only a few men actually act on those desires. But still, as a result, ALL men are demonized because a few men let their dark natures take over, if only for a moment.

          I, as a man, am demonized because some men whom i’ve never met, occasionally fall off the apple cart and commit atrocities.

          On the other hand, we have an entire society collapsing because the Ruling Class and Feminists have jerry-rigged it to suit a woman’s darkest desires. And guess what? They’re acting on it! For goodness sakes they can murder their own husbands and children and they get a pussy pass for it! And still, we have the vast majority of women doing everything they can to enable the evil. Why should they not be blamed for this? Why should they not be demonized for this?

          Sounds to me you’re just trying to keep the pussy pass in effect for female evil. But, like i said, I’m with you on most of your thoughts.

    • Fuck nature. Fuck evolution. Most men don’t have any problem with controlling their “reptilian brain” so women should be able to as well, period. Men who can’t can be found in prisons, mental institutions, and the like.

      I see no need to wait for evolution to do something. Soon we will be able to use genetic engineering and/or nanotech to fix women so they don’t destroy civilization. In the meantime we probably have the technology now to create drugs that could at least keep women from damaging civilization until a more permenant solution can be found.

      Civilization is everything. I don’t want to go back to living in caves with lifespans of 30 years. Women are taking a wrecking ball to civilization so they must be stopped no matter what. You may find my solutions to be extreme and impractical but we need a permenant solution. My ideas on the subject are transhumanist and without transhumanism to fix women civilizatiion will die.

  6. I actually agree with you on this Herbal Essence.

    In the past, in male dominated societies, their primal desires were left uncheck. This resulted in men abusing countless women, rape and horrible treatment of women. Of course feminists love to bring this up even though this is long past gone.

    However, now we the tide is turning in the opposite direction, with this society become a female dominated society as a result of feminism and their primal desires are left uncheck. Whose desires are worse? The truth is that both primal desires of male and females are equally bad, but in completely different way and both must be controlled.

    It’s a shame that a society we cannot seek to maintain some form of equilibrium for long before allowing the victimized side take over and become the aggressor. Is this a sign of weakness of human nature or that we have to repeat history’s mistakes over and over in different ways?

    • “In the past, in male dominated societies, their primal desires were left uncheck. This resulted in men abusing countless women, rape and horrible treatment of women.”

      Well I think that probably depends on the patriarchy in question, and in what time period. Some societies treated most women poorly, but they also treated most men poorly and it was a class warfare issue rather than a gender issue. In other societies women were respected a had a remarkable # of rights. And in still others they got the short end of the stick.

      “It’s a shame that a society we cannot seek to maintain some form of equilibrium”

      I used to believe that was possible. And maybe in some science fiction universe it is. But in the end I think that meritocracy, laissez-faire capitalism, and tribalism is the only way to go. This will naturally favor men, as we are the higher performers. Most women can’t compete in a meritocracy, which is why they need to have a game rigged so heavily in their favor in the US.

  7. @ JAMES:

    “I have tried everything to change my fate, including PUA, psycologists, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, and nothing has worked, so therefore I have absolutely no more investment in this society. Since I know that nothing I do is going to make a difference, I get revenge in the small ways… I slam doors in women’s faces, If I have to interview one for a job I insult them and suggest they not get hired, I don’t move out of the way when they are walking down the street, and if they don’t get out my way I bump right into them and knock them over, I cut them off and talk over them at stores, customer service, on the job, etc., I only vote for people who advocate shrinkage of the government, and elimination of social programs, I am constantly improving my work skills so I can make more money and gain more prestige, and god forbid a bitch asks me for a favor that is not sexual. I suggest that all other men in our position do the same thing to show them our appreciation.”

    James, you are defining yourself and your actions by whether or not women are attracted to you. You are more than that. I suggest taking up a spiritual practice, getting involved with a Buddhist or Meditation group and realizing a Higher Self.

    It has helped me accept my fate in life based on the idea of karma, and also view all sentient beings, including women, as more than just a temporary body and mind.

    It has made me happy.

  8. Excellent article.

    In fact, my latest “bait” I used on Futrelle, was quite revealing about some things.

    I already wrote up a quick “diddy” about it, but there were a couple of re-occurring themes that I noticed – I am going to write up those in greater detail today.

    Here is the link of what I already wrote up.

    http://men-factor.blogspot.com/2011/01/hook-line-and-sinker-unfortunately-all.html

    If you are interested, I’ll send you a link to my analysis I am going to do right now.

  9. Random, try to see things from White and Nerdy’s perspective. The dividing wall of experience between men like you and men like him can probably never be bridged, but please make at least some effort.

    I know this is a highly emotional comment, and probably irrational, but I’m make it anyway seeing as how I have nothing to loose. Imagine that your a man universally rejected by women and you realize that not only are women not attracted to you, but they are repulsed by you, you disgust them in the pit of their souls. You know that even if they bite their tongues they have nothing but contempt for you. Being in those kind of shoes, how are you supposed to hold women in anything other than contempt (even if its silent contempt)? Its one thing to be rejected by ALL women, but the awareness of how they really feel about you, with that knowledge how can a hapless omega male not hate women?

    To say its just their nature is a bullshit copout, it does zero to reduce their morale responsibility for their actions. The fact that women HATE HATE HATE men like me and White and Nerdy simply for the mere fact that we exist and we are who we are (and we can’t possibly change either) may not make women necessarily “evil”, but I fail to see why we should feel anything other than returned hatred and total indifference and disregard for them. How can men like us possibly feel respect for women, even in the slightest regard when we are so intensely despised?

    In our case hatred may not be productive or helpful, but how can you call it morally wrong?

    • I do ok with women. But my social awkwardness and introversion means I fail most women’s 3-second rule, i.e. “If I’m not infatuated with him in three seconds, then he is forever unworthy of me.”

    • I guess I can only imagine what it is to be in your position Mahoney and I’d probably share similar sentiments too if every single woman hated me as well. I guess I’m somewhere in the middle, where I find that there are women that look down on me, but for every woman that looks down on me there is a woman that happens to like me. I have above average looks and I’m of above average height so maybe this spares me from experiencing the full ugly nature of women.

      Like Herbal Essence, I’m also a socially awkward and shy person, so I’ve experienced at least some of their malice, but not enough to make me hate all women. I am shocked though when I notice how women react to alpha males I know. It’s surprising how friendly and open they become to these guys. Seeing how they react to these type of men makes me want to learn game, but I realize there is a low chance of being able to get to the level of these alpha males.

  10. ”None of it makes me any less disturbed at the collective female psychosis we’re dealing with. ”

    Then maybe you need to give up dabbling in all the hodgepodge and go deep in just one tradition.

    Scanning the surface of 100 different “paths” won’t get you self-actualization in any one of them.

  11. W and N, Mahoney, its NOT ABOUT feeling empathy for women.

    It’s about your own Self Actualization which will automatically bring about both detachment from this world as well as empathy for all sentient beings in it.

    It’s not about picking and choosing groups or species to focus on in either a negative or positive sense.

    Its a natural outcome of a good practice.

    Nothing will bother you.

    • Why would I ever feel empathy for a “sentient being” (assuming women are sentient) that wants to do harm to me? Why should I? Feeling empathy for such an evil being is stupid.

  12. White and Nerdy wrote:
    One reason I started this blog was to let other men in a similar situation to me that they are not alone. Nothing that I have talked about that has happened to me has only happened to me. Sexual harassment bullshit? It’s happened to lots of guys. Many of them weren’t as lucky as I was.

    Hey, it’s happened to me. That’s one reason I continue to read your blog.

    Fuck nature. Fuck evolution. Most men don’t have any problem with controlling their “reptilian brain” so women should be able to as well, period. Men who can’t can be found in prisons, mental institutions, and the like.

    Or they’re dead. Western society is far more forgiving (and often even encouraging) of women giving in to their natural impulses. So-called traditionalists can be every bit as bad as the feminists in this regard.

  13. Hey man, I think you need to make this post a STICKY!

    The truth is that a HUGE portion of the population are OMEGAs, but almost every single one of them thinks he’s alone. They all think “I’m a loser, and I’m a unique snowflake, every other guy is getting laid like mad”.

    If only men knew that most men fall into this category. No, not all men are virgins… but even the ones who aren’t, only got laid 1-2 times in their life by grovelling, begging and hitting on a bunch of women till one drunk one said yes. They spend most of their lives retelling the story about those 1-2 times to seem like they’re getting laid.

    Society has built this AMAZING system, where men are shamed into not admitting the lack of success with women, because they will immediately be labeled a loser. And because nobody admits it out loud, the lie can go on… because nobody else is admitting. Every guy thinks “I’m the only one, so those shaming labels must be true, because nobody else is in my position”.

    Thank for the internet though! The lie can’t continue, because with the anonymity of the internet, more and more and more guys will learn and network anonymously, figuring out that “hey wtf, I’m not alone… wtf? I was told I must be defunct and a one-off, but then, why is almost everyone online just like me?”.

    Its not going to be over-night, because even online men preserve some form of ego, and still want to not seem like losers. So even online most guys still preserve some of the pretense of “oh ya, I get laid every other night, muahhaha”… and make fun of guys who don’t say the same… But slowly and over time, this truth will be uncovered, mostly because of the brave guys like you who despite all the shaming, attacks and societal agents open a blog to inform guys “hey, you’re not alone”.

    So thank you for creating this blog for men. This is one reason why the matriarchy hates you with a vengeance… you’re taking away one of their biggest weapons for controlling men.

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