Feminists will talk about how women should have the right the make their own choices. This is based on a foundation that women are capable of making their own choices and not just machines reacting to the whims of men. However, when this gets applied to dating, they end up singing a different tune, effectively talking out of both sides of their mouths. When it comes to dating, suddenly women do nothing but respond to the thoughts and feelings of men. Why say women are capable of individual choices except when it comes to dating. It is all about making sure women aren’t held responsible for their choices in dating. It’s also about transferring all responsibility in dating issues to men so that if a man can’t get a date/can’t get laid/can’t get a girlfriend then it must be his fault since men can just magically will women to find him attractive. This would be considered absurd in any other context.
Here is an example of this from the Dickless Man Project.
Self perception is everything. I know that sounds simplistic and cliche. It also seems to be true. The primary difference in whether or not people get noticed sexually, is whether or not they feel confident and open about being noticed sexually.
This is bullshit. You can’t make anyone attracted to you by your force of will. Notice that this is different from doing something like being fat and then losing weight which would make someone more attractive. These people are saying that attractiveness is a matter of will and “correct thoughts”. This is effectively the same false claim that game makes. That’s no surprise. In reality, attractiveness is determined by other people. That’s built into the definition on the word attractive. In my case, women find me unattractive/non-alpha and choose to hate me for it. That’s their decision. I’m not responsible for it. What the author of the above quote is trying to do is say that you can will yourself to be attractive so that unattractiveness is because of a character defect. This is an attempt to give women permission to hate men they find unattractive by claiming its really because unattractive men are defective.
Why are feminists claiming that a man will himself to be attractive? It’s all about the MDAD (Misandrist Dating Advice Distraction). In this the distraction is about keeping a man believing that there is something wrong with him if women find him unattractive. Rather than this being a function of what women think, it is some sort of character defect, that a man must spend lots of time and energy fixing. It keeps him running around in circles indefinitely (since attractiveness doesn’t work in the way he is being told it does) so that he doesn’t realize how things with women really work.