Anytime you think that you have followed some dating advice and accomplished what the advice recommended, you will find that it’s not good enough. You won’t get what the dating advice promised. What will happen is that you will be given new dating advice that will supposedly deliver. Of course, that dating advice won’t produce results either, but there will be more dating advice you must follow waiting in the wings. Shifting the goalposts is common in dating advice, and it serves the purposes of the MDAD (Misandrist Dating Advice Distraction).
One of the reasons that the goalposts are constantly shifting in dating advice is to keep you on the MDAD treadmill. The last thing feminists and manginas want is for men to give up on women because avoiding women denies women their power. Instead what they want is for you to keep chasing women. They can’t actually give you dating advice that works because what they really want to keep you in a constant state of chasing women.
To justify their shifting of the goalposts women and manginas will use bullshit reasons like “self improvement is a continuous process” (ignoring that dating advice isn’t and can never be “self improvement”). Dr. Mangina love recently tried justify his goalpost shifting in his dating advice using that reason.
One of the things that people often complain about is feeling as though that there’s always more to do and to work on or improve. It’s like a race that can never be won because you keep realizing that what you thought was the finish line was another lap marker.
Alternately, to take it back to the mountain metaphor at the beginning, it’s like climbing to the top of the Matterhorn and realizing that the summit there is just the base of K-2. Believe it or not: that’s a good thing.
If there’s no end to dating advice then how do you measure progress? By definition nothing gets accomplished. Not being able to measure progress is part of the point. The last thing that dating advice pushers want is dating advice that is testable and measurable. They don’t want you realizing that their dating advice doesn’t work.
What feminists and manginas are doing is giving you dating advice that is “turtles all the way down” and hiding it by calling it “self improvement” and other things.