Reserves Desperation Derangement Syndrome

What happens to a man who stays in The Reserves long enough without realizing that he’s better off without women?  Eventually, he will suffer from what I call Reserves Desperation Derangement Syndrome from the waiting.  The ForeverAlone subreddit (which is no longer about being forever alone since it is now controlled by women in relationships and maginas who worship them) has good examples of Reserves Desperation Derangement Syndrome.

One one end, we have a forever alone man who found a girlfriend.  Sounds good, right?  Except that she’s 10 years older than him, and she using him just to have a kid.

Basically she is 10 years older than me and absolutely desperate to have a kid before it’s too late, if it’s not already.

She keeps telling me how much having a child will change me for the better and she thinks we will have kids soon

The man who wrote this is aware that he is just being used so that his girlfriend can have a kid.  His follow up comments make it clear that he know that he is just being used for his money.  It’s previous obvious that as soon as she has his kid and his money, she will dump him and go back to the men she actually wants to have sex with.  This sounds pretty bad but compared to the next example, this was a weak case of Reserves Desperation Derangement Syndrome.

Someone decided to ask the ForeverAlone subreddit if they would rather be single forever or be married to a woman that cuckolds them.  A significant fraction of the responses were men who would be willing to be married to a woman that cuckolded them even though they would get nothing they wanted from the deal.  (Fortunately, a lot of men still had their self respect and chose to be single forever instead.)  The men willing to be cuckolds are the ultimate in Reserves Desperation Derangement Syndrome.  They are so desperate that they are willing to be cuckolded by a woman.  They won’t get want they want because being cuckolded especially in their case is just play acting at a sexual relationship with a woman.  These men represent the ultimate goal of keeping men in The Reserves, conditioning men to accept any behavior from a woman, no matter how abusive.  And that is what cuckolding is, particularly in this case, abuse.

Someone may say that these men have a sexual fetish.  That is clearly not the case.  Holding these men in The Reserves has conditioned brainwashed them into willing to be cuckolded and abused.  Their own words make it clear that they do not get off on a woman cuckolding them.  It’s clear that they are so desperate for female contact of any kind that they are willing to let themselves be abused by women.  There are plenty of women ready to take advantage of these men from dominatrices trying to find more customers to women who get off on small penis humiliation.

The only answer to this is to refuse to be a part of The Reserves and GYOW.  When a man goes his own way, he won’t be abused by a woman (at least not directly, being abused by the state working on behalf of women is a different matter).  He will also have his self respect intact.

Does The Manuresphere Even Lift?

One thing the manuresphere will tell you to do is lift weights.  Unlike the rest of what the manuresphere tells you, lifting weights is a fine hobby.  Yet, it’s not the requirement that the manuresphere makes it out to be.  Given how much the manuresphere hypes lifting weights, you would expect manurespherians to be serious about lifting weights and exercise in general.  However, you would be wrong.

Fatt Fuck Fornedarmu says you’re a loser who masturbates and eats Cheetos all day and doesn’t understand why you and many other people are laughing at him.

All you need to do is look at pictures of manurespherians to see that they don’t lift or even care about excercise.  Fatt Fuck Fornedarmu is one such example, but the manuresphere is filled with fat blobs like Fatt Fuck Fornedarmu.  (Barbarossa has pointed out that the picture to the left was taken after Fatt Fuck Fornedarmu was supposed to have been on a two year diet and exercise regimen that failed.) They are even too stupid to see their own hypocrisy when they accuse MGTOWs of eating Cheetos and masturbating all day and attacking others for being fat.  (Ironically, it’s likely that the targets of the manuresphere’s fat shaming campaigns are less fat than the fat blobs of the manuresphere.)

Given that the manuresphere is incapable of exercising, it’s no surprise they fall for scams like the paleo diet.  It promises a quick cure all to being a fat blob.  Yet, as we see from the fat blobs of the manuresphere, it does not work.  Beyond that we have to wonder how man manurespherians say they’re on the paleo diet, but are too lazy to actually follow that scam diet.  Why should you listen to diet advice from guys who either can’t follow through with a scam diet like the paleo diet or conclusively prove that it doesn’t work?

This “do as I say, not as I do” attitude is prevalent throughout the manuresphere.  Some of the biggest proponents of game, are guys who have never actually tried game themselves to see if it actually works.  They just heard it does from other manurespherians.  Why should you listen to dating advice from guys who haven’t even tried it themselves but heard it works from someone else?  The manuresphere can’t even follow its own advice when it comes to something everyone knows is healthy like lifting weights.  If they can’t do that, then there is no reason to listen to them on bullshit like the paleo diet or game or any other weird shit they believe.

The problem of not following their own dating advice extends beyond the manuresphere and into the dating advice industry in general.  Pretty much any dating advice you get is going to be from someone who hasn’t tried it themselves.  (This is not surprising as most dating advice is designed to keep you in The Reserves and not actually help you get dates/sex/girlfriends.)  There is the alternative of actually running experiments with dating advice and gathering data to see how it works, but such things are kryptonite to the dating advice industry.  Since they’re unwilling to perform experiments and gather data, their unwillingness to use their own dating advice proves it’s bullshit.

Predatory Sex Therapists In Silicon Valley

I found this article about how sex therapy in Silicon Valley is a booming business.  What it doesn’t tell you is that these sex therapists are preying on male techies in a way that should be considered malpractice. Let’s look at what these sex therapists have to say.

There’s something else at play here, though: In general, tech workers are more vulnerable to issues around love and intimacy, according to several local sex therapists I’ve interviewed. The reasons for this are wide-ranging, but in Dan’s particular case, it resulted from being tagged as a prodigy at a young age. He excelled in science and was encouraged to pursue it to the exclusion of all else.

“These are the tropes of tech development,” says Elizabeth McGrath, his sex therapist, who shared his story with me. (McGrath did not give me her patient’s name, and asked me to use a pseudonym when writing about him.) “To his mind, and his processing, there was no desire to prioritize anything other than that.”

No, this is not a trope of tech development. Even by the sex therapist’s admission, tech guys are in a path created by external forces, yet she tries to make this the fault of tech guys. What actually happened is that these men were being groomed for The Reserves. However, it worked a little too well. These guys managed to avoid getting ensnared by used up women in a bizarre form of good luck for these guys. As we will see these sex therapists aren’t acting in the best interests of their male tech clients, but instead are trying to reroute them back into The Reserves.

“[These men] often spend their time in environments that are mostly male, like in school and tech offices,” explains another therapist, Celeste Hirschman. “So they don’t have a lot of practice just relating to women, period, let alone learning how to meet, pickup, seduce, touch.”

Of course, this is true, but that’s because women don’t want them until they need a chump with money to pay their bills. How do these sex therapists help men get practice with women?

Hirschman follows a less-traditional therapy method known as Somatica, which is “body-based” and allows for non-genital touch between the counselor and client, the idea being that there are things that can’t be learned through talk alone. For example, she will wrestle with clients just to get them out of their heads and into their bodies.

“Less traditional” likely means crackpot in this case.

“Getting them out of their heads” does not get them experience interacting with women. It certainly does not get these men experience actually having sex with women. And if they’re like the 40 year old male virgin that the article talks about, he is going to need significant sexual experience to have relationships with age appropriate women. Adult women who are virgins are practically nonexistent.

Another reason that a lack of sexual experience is a problem is that these tech guys won’t recognize women who are out to steal their money. The sex therapists say that such women don’t exist.

Hirschman says some of her clients will downplay or hide the money they make out of fear that it’s the primary reason a woman will be interested in them. “I had one client I was just talking to the other day, he said, ‘I don’t know if I want to bring women to my house right away because it’s a big, huge house and suddenly they’re wanting to nest after the second date and they haven’t even gotten to know me yet!’”

McGrath believes that while there may be women out there on the prowl for a Google billionaire, these men’s fears largely come from deep-seated personal insecurity. “Part of that is, ‘A woman couldn’t be interested in me for me,’” she says. “That is a common thread for many men who are in the tech industry. They have never been seen as ‘the boyfriend’ or felt attractive or sexy. They felt dorky or like outsiders.”

This is not personal insecurity. It is what they have observed not only in their own lives but in the lives of many other men. Playing this off as a problem that only affects “Google billionaires” is like saying that bank robbers only try to rob Fort Knox and not small town banks with lax security.

One thing that gets repeated over and over is how these tech guys are “too much in their own heads”. In other words, these sex therapists don’t want them thinking. In fact, these sex therapists attack everything that made the tech guys so successful.

Another common issue that these therapists encounter with tech clients is they treat sex like a line of broken code in need of debugging, or a mathematical equation. “That’s the crux of trying to interact with a human, though: there isn’t a formula,” says McGrath. “Human connection is not formulaic. Does it have statistics, can you look at data, can you research it and quantify it? Sure. But in one-to-one, it is always variable. That’s where those things fail.”

This is an admission that these sex therapists don’t want their male tech clients using their best asset, their brains, making observations, or using the scientific method. (As we know attacking the scientific method is common to purveyors of dating advice.) The tech guys might actually notice the real nature of women and how vile it is, not to mention that they are being scammed by their sex therapists.

However, there is a big problem for the sex therapists when they attack data and the scientific method. If the tech guys are wrong for using those tools, then sex therapy can’t be based on science which uses those tools. It means that what these sex therapists are doing is no better than voodoo. By selling their voodoo as therapy, these sex therapists are quacks and con artists. The reason they are in Silicon Valley is for the same reason that bank robbers rob banks. That’s because banks are where the money is, and in this case it has little to no security protecting it.

The Reserves Attracts Predators

StonerWithABoner brought this article to our attention written by a dominatrix who thinks that the reason why men aren’t lining up to be abused by her is because of misogyny and the mythical “patriarchy”.  The reality is that most men have no interest in being abused by women, being pissed on by women, or being ass raped by women.  That’s not because of misogyny.  It’s common sense.  Any man claiming to want to engage in that sort of thing needs psychological help not abusive feminism.

But why is the author of that article trying to convince men that they really want that sort of thing?  It is because she is a sexual predator preying on vulnerable men and using feminism to justify her abuse and sadism.  While we know that there are men (really manginas) that go to dominatrixes to be abused, how come we never hear about this type of thing with the genders reversed?  Where are the male dominators doing the same things to women?  They don’t exist because any such man would be arrested for abuse.

There’s also another aspect of this we need to consider, how this relates to the reserves.  Men in the reserves aren’t getting that much action from women until a woman needs him to clean up her life.  This creates a fertile ground for predators like the author of the linked article.  It reminds me of something I saw on a dating advice forum several years ago.  On that dating advice forum was a man who wasn’t a virgin, but might as well have been.  He disappeared for a while, but came back.  While he vanished, he got involved with something involving small penis humiliation.  What happened was that he was so desperate for any kind of sexual contact, he got involved with in small penis humiliation just so he could be “sexual” for a while.  Chances are he didn’t even have a small penis, but he was willing to be humiliated and abused just for a little sexual contact.  Reading what he wrote about the women he was involved with was as disturbing as the linked article.  He was even banned from the forum because they didn’t want to attract porn.  Unfortunately, this was pre-MGTOW so there wasn’t any real help for him.

This is why MGTOW is so important.  There are a lot of female predators out there whether they’re financial predators or sexual predators.  They’re all dangerous.

At Least Elliot Rodger Didn’t Reenact The 40 Year Old Virgin

At the Dickless Man Project there is a lament that Elliot Rodger is no longer a member of The Reserves.  The article isn’t phrased in that manner but that is its message.

Despite what the Dickless Man Project says, giving it time would not have made things “better” for him.  Would there have been women who eventually would have faked interest in him for his wealth and/or ability to provide?  Would he have been able to lose his virginity eventually like the examples in the Dickless Man Project article?  Probably, yes, but so what?  It’s not an improvement to be pursued by  desperate STD ridden “former” sluts especially if they have kids who only want you for what you have.  While all of the examples in the Dickless Man Project may be “happy” now (although it’s likely their wives don’t have sex with them anymore), they won’t be so happy when their wives surprise them with a divorce.  And it’s a guarantee that will happen once their wives have sucked them dry.

What the men in the Dickless Man Project article went through was the same thing Steve Carell’s character in The 40 Year Old Virgin did albeit younger.  Catherine Keener’s character got everything, and Steve Carell’s character got nothing.  Yet, we are expected to believe this is a good thing.  The whole movie is propaganda for keeping men in the reserves.

At least Elliot Rodger didn’t reenact The 40 Year Old Virgin movie and stayed out of the reserves.

The Reserves

In many countries, the military has a reserve.  In the US, each service has a reserve component, and there is the National Guard.  The reserves are made up of citizens who may get activated when extra troops are needed to supplement the standing military.  When they’re not activated, the reserves train on a regular basis.  In the US, the reserves train one weekend a month and two additional weeks a year.

I have noticed a disturbing parallel to the military reserves in the world of dating advice.  A piece of dating advice I have been given numerous times is, “Just wait until X” where X was “you’re out of high school”, “you’re out of college”, “you’re 25”, “you’re 30”, etc.  In other words, there was going to be some point in time in the not too distant future when all of sudden women were going to be interested in me.  That point in time was always not now, but later.  As time went on, and it didn’t happen people just kept moving the goalposts from after high school, to after college, and so forth.  (Goalpost shifting is common in dating advice.)  This piece of dating advice is not unique to me.  I find it all over the place even when I’m not looking for it such as with this example on the Dickless Man Project.

I would also suggest something I heard from a sex advice columnist. Roughly paraphrased: “Don’t focus on getting your teenaged self laid. Think about getting your 22 year old self laid, and work on becoming a good person (and good future sex partner) in the meantime.”

On the surface, it sounds like this piece of dating advice is just to get men to shut up for a while about not getting laid/not having a girlfriend.  In reality, what is going on is much more sinister.  Notice how the quote above doesn’t say to just wait, but to “work on becoming a good person”.  (It also says to work on being a good future sex partner, but that’s impossible without practice.  This is another example of doublethink in dating advice.)  Whether it’s the so called manosphere, feminists like Dr. Nerdlove Manginalove, or anyone else peddling dating advice, they all spend almost all of their time on nebulous and meaningless “self improvement” and political ideologies instead of how to meet women and get laid/get a girlfriend.  The last thing any of the dating advice peddlers want to see is a man successful with women.

The reason why the dating advice peddlers don’t want you to successfully get women is about more than just money.  It’s not just about keeping you as a paying customer.  Many of the dating advice peddlers don’t even sell anything.  Wanting to make you become a feminist, white nationalist, conspiracy theorist, paleo dieter, etc. is a big part of it, but that isn’t the only reason.

The dating advice peddlers want to keep you in the dating equivalent of the reserves.  If you have something women want like money, eventually there will be women who will show interest in you.  Their interest will be fake, and they will probably be plotting their divorce before you get married.  However, given enough time, there will be women who will at least fake interest in you.  Women are only interest in the 20% of men they find attractive.  Women ignore all other men for the most part until they start realizing that their looks are fading.  This can happen as early as her late 20s or as late as her 30s.  Women have nothing to show for the decades of screwing around with the 20% of men except STDs, a ruined vagina, lots of financial debt, and maybe some kids.  When it’s clear that one of the men in the 20% won’t commit to her, out of desperation she will try to get a man in the 80% before her looks fade.  She needs a stupid man to pay her debts, pay for her kids if she has them or give her kids before she hits menopause.  For women to be able to do this, there has to be men waiting in reserve for her.  The 20% of attractive men aren’t enough to go around.

The problem is why should a man be in the reserves.  There’s no benefit for us in getting together with a ruined former slut with a STD especially if she has kids.  It’s not like we would even get sex out of the deal.  As soon as we’re locked in, our relationships/marriages with them would become mostly if not completely sexless.  We’re all better off going our own way and opting out of anything having to do with women.  To combat this, the dating advice peddlers are trying to keep us on the MDAD treadmill by distracting us with meaningless crap that has nothing to do with meeting women and getting laid/relationships with women.  Self improvement bullshit is perfect for this since it doesn’t have any objective metrics for measuring improvement so they can keep you going in circles until a woman fakes interest in you.  Ideological bullshit is also perfect since gynocentric ideologies such as feminism, white nationalism, the red pill, etc. since it keeps you focused on serving women without getting anything in return for your service.  By distracting you from being aware that you aren’t getting together with women, the dating advice peddlers are keeping you in a position of weakness for when a woman fakes interest in you.

When a man decides to give up on women, he is dropping out of the reserves.  This is something women recognize as an existential threat to them because women are incapable of doing anything except manipulating men.  A man who has dropped out of the reserves can’t be manipulated by women any longer.  This is why giving up on women generates more vitrol from women than men who physically abuse women do.

If you’re part of the reserves, drop out.  All that’s waiting for you are debts, STDs, and a sexless marriage that will end in divorce with you losing half or more of your assets.

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